How It Works

At Beyond the Bar, we believe in keeping things simple, transparent, and stress-free.

• Sign-up fee → Your profile is added to our matchmaking database for 12 months.
• No recurring fees → Once you’re in, you stay active.
• No extra costs for introductions → Matches are included in your membership.

Database listing (once-off): R699 - Payable after our one-on-one (in-person or online) meeting

Includes verification, profile setup and the double-opt-in introduction process. Listing is valid for 12 months. Optional renewal after 12 months: R199 if you want to extend.

How it works

Choose your preferred age bracket/s when joining.

We’ll send you profiles when we see a mutual match in your bracket.

Frequency depends on who is currently in the database, but your profile stays active the whole time.

Beyond the Bar isn’t just about putting two people together — it’s about helping you have healthier, safer, and more genuine one-on-one connections.

As part of your membership:

We share simple techniques and pointers to make your dates enjoyable and respectful.

Personality tips, suggested questions, red-flag spotting, and more.

Our socials are designed for people who are busy and don't want to join our database for one-on-one dates.

Pay per event → No membership required, typically R150–R450 depending on venue and inclusions.

Flexible → Only join when you're available.

Age-specific events → For example:
18-25; 25-35; 35-45; 45-55; 55-65; 65+

*No-shows are not refunded. Cancellations 48+ hours before an event receive a refund or credit to a future social.

Simple, fair pricing → Once-off database sign-up + per-event socials.

No hidden costs → What you see is what you get.

Support included → Tips, red-flag spotting, and encouragement along the way.

Authenticity first → We want real, meaningful connections, not just dates.

• Apply online
  Complete a short form and choose whether you want to join the database, attend socials, or both.

• In-Person/Online Welcome (Optional) 

If you’d like, we can meet you locally or online to discuss your preferences and answer any questions. This is perfect if you’re feeling a little anxious, as it gives you a familiar face at your first social.

For database members:

• Private profile created
  We set up a confidential profile with your first name, age bracket, area, interests and 2–3 photos approved by you.

• You review potential matches
  Whenever someone matches your preferences, you’ll receive their profile. You can mark it as interested or pass.

• Mutual interest confirmed
  When both parties are “interested,” we share first names and mobile numbers so you can arrange your meetup. We don’t attend dates - you’re free to connect independently.

• Contact details shared
  With double opt-in confirmed, we share each person’s first name and mobile number with the other. You arrange your own meetup directly. We do not attend dates.

• Keep it moving
  Update preferences anytime, attend socials when you like, or pause your profile if you need a break.